Monday, October 20, 2014

Escalating to a Punishment Spanking

Whoopins for adult boys: What we can Learn From From Others

Daddys: 

What do you when—after the first Spanking—you see the same bad behavior return?

  • Just try Spanking again?
  • Try a nonSpanking punishment?
  • Deny your adultboy Spankings until actual behavior improves?
It's a tough question for those engaged in Domestic Discipline.

WARNING: The rest of this blogpost does contain specifics about a third degree felony child abuse count. Do not keep reading and do not watch the video referenced if you are uncomfortable with the content. The details of what this Mentor did was not right. In fact it was actionable by law. This blogpost only encourages using his techniques between consenting adults. Please, lord, do not misinterprete my intentions here.

In a search for a practical answers to this complicated situation, a Tumblr follower of mine from Italy helped direct my attention to an online father, poet, spoken-word artist from Orlando, Fla., who took a real-life approach to dealing with a 7-year-old boy he is a mentor to  that while illegal with children under the age of 18, can be easliy adapted by consenting adults, so you can straightforwardly escalate from a base level Spanking to a Punishment Spanking, based on recurrent bad behaviors in a relationship.

Video Report: Man shaves boy's head as punishment gallery
Try This at Home With adult boys Only
In our Domestic Discipline lives, it can get difficult to envision effective ways to impress upon naughty little adult boys how seriously Daddy expects to see a change in behavior.

The effectiveness of this Dad's approach transliterated to the adult experience is as psychological as it is Corporal Punishment. There are nonSpanking punishments involved which I think, if applied with some precision, could be very helpful for DD relationships or any two men engaged in Corporal Punishment.
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Corporal Punishment Tips (from the African American Community)

Apparently, in the African American community, shaving your son's head for misbehaving or "acting up" is a fairly normal affair. It is a nonSpanking disciplinary technique designed specifically to humiliate boys into behaving. The "Swag" that a black boy's hair is at school marks him for being cool and whatnot.

Well, my guess is that with a real, honest-to-goodness badboy, a shaving is probably not going to work. But for adult boys like me...this is a great idea. For the record, my Daddy shaves me often just before my Maintenance Spankings, and I know I do connect discipline and good behavior around my Daddy with shaving.

This came to my attention recently when one Devory Broox was done for third degree felony child abuse for taking the belt to his son. Interesting learnings that I've included below came from watching the original video that this Orlando, Fla., Dad shot of himself.

Let me clarify again: the video is hard to watch for multiple reasons, not least of which is because no child should be exposed to this kind of treatment, even if the boy's behavior is atrocious.

However, the details of how this Dad decided to roll out his boy's discipline was complex and completely repurpose-able for adult boys and the Daddys Who Spank us. It's an superb example of effective, old-fashioned Domestic Discipline technique that can be incorporated by our CP Daddys and their adult boys into your Spanking lives.

How to Escalate to a Punishment Spanking

Here are some key approaches that can help you get from point A to point B if you are struggling to get from point A to point B with the boys you discipline.
Investigate First: Use Rhetorical Questions Before Spanking
Demand Answers Quickly
  1. Investigate: Discuss the Behavior & Use Rhetorical Questions Before the Spanking. The portion in the video subtitled "The Investigation" is full of great ideas for Daddys Who Spank. They include making your boy explain himself by posing rhetorical questions that can't be answered without the boy realizing he's wrong. Highlights from the video include:
  • "...We are going to go back into the room and put this belt to work on your behind." and
  • "And you want us to reward your bad behavior? So we whipped your behind the last time, for nothing? Is that what you are telling me?"
  1. 2    Define a Specific Behavior & Use it in Scolding. Here I think adults need to be flexible. It's possible if you are working one-on-one with a boy who is trying to not smoke, and he is caught a second time, then you could use an actual misbehavior. If none exists, I think one can adapt, "acting up in school" to something more generic like "disobeying Daddy," after you've punished the boy once already for the same behavior. 
    Have a Noticable Spanking Tool in Plain View

    3.   Have A Noticeable Spanking Tool in Plain Sight. The Belt being draped around Daddys neck as a "prop" for The Spanking that is about to happen was sheer brilliance. I haven't ever seen that before, and thought, "Now there's a great idea to inculcate anticipation from the beginning." The use of props to build anticipation and excitement have lots of potential outcomes. Imagine if you were just going on a day visit to Daddys, and he opens the door to greet you with a belt draped around his neck! For those like me who do not like belts, Daddy can have a paddle tucked into his back pocket. Then when he lets you in, he can make his boy walk behind him, so the boy can see it as he enters Daddy's house. After he has a good look, The Investigation should begin.

    4.   Call a Friend. Having a Spanking friend come 'round in the middle of your boy's scolding is also a kinda brilliant idea. So, pre-Spanking, there is another Daddy there, ostensibly to back Daddy up, if he gets tired whippin your behind. He can also be placed strategically in the room to watch, bringing an added level of embarrassment to the boy's punishment.

    Paddle Talk
    5.   Return to the Use of Effective Rhetorical Dialogue During the Spanking. Highlights from the video include: 
  • "How many times did I tell you? Huh? How many times? Now why are you crying? This doesn't mean anything to you." 
  • "Yes, it DOES." [assuming the boy responds in the affirmative] 
  • "No, this isn't doing nothing to you. Just [the other day], you started acting up again. This whipping doesn't mean anything to you."
  •  This line of Daddy dialogue works for adult boys, because this keeps Daddy in control and the Spanking thorough and out of the boy's hands.
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Analysing the Results From This Video

Step 1: The Investigation
On video we see the Mentor standing with his belt—the one that will be "put to work" later—draped around his neck standing over his boy with an electric razor in his hand about to shave his boy's head.
"Your hair is gone. You can't get hair back,
until you decide you are going to behave yourself."


Daddy/boy Dialogue (Part 1)
"What happened at school?"
"We were just laughing and playing"
"What do you go to school for?"
"To learn"
"Yup, to learn. So your grandmother sent you to me because..."
"Because I was acting up."
"What happened on Monday? She sent you to me, because you were acting up. So you deliberately went back to school, after I told you to behave in class. Were you saying, '[Screw] me?'"
"No, Sir."
"You might as well say it to my face. Say it to my face. So, when I whipped your [behind] on Monday, that wasn't good enough for you?"
"Yes, Sir."
"It was? Hmmm...well, obviously it wasn't.Grandma sends you to school with a fresh haircut, you look real good. We come over here and play video games, we have a good time. We do."
"Yes, sir."
"But you want us to reward your bad behavior. So we did all that on Monday, for nothing. Is that what you are telling me?"
"Don't you think I have better things to do than
talk to you about behaving yourself?"
"No, sir."
"You just want to disrespect me and your grandmother. You realize that?"
"Yes, sir."
"You are a [boy], you know that? So this is what's about to happen. Your hair is gone. You can't get hair back, until you decide you are going to behave yourself. And then after I cut your hair, we are going to go back into the room and put this belt to work on your behind."

[A dog can be heard barking. There's someone at the door. It's the Mentor's buddy Mike, a fellow spoken word artist.]
"I think that's Mike. Yeah, that's Mike right there." [Mike comes to the bathroom entryway and sees that the boy's hair isn't cut yet.]
[His friend Mike says,] "He ready?"

Key Takeaways:
  • First, Daddy scolds for the misbehavior—by identifying what the boy did, in this instance for deliberate, willful disobedience and open defiance.
  • The adult boy is expected to be fairly silent thoroughout, but must also answer Daddy when questions are asked. 
  • There are consequences for the boy using inappropriate language. In this video, the boy says, "Sh*t!" when the razor is switched on. That language results in the Mentor shaving off his boy's eyebrows.
Step 2. Removal of the "Swag"
Next, the Mentor uses shaving his boy's head as a punishment for being naughty. If you are going to behave like a child, you will not be permitted to wear your hair any way you please. This is because you are a boy, and I am a responsible adult. Shaving will be used as punishment.


Daddy/boy Dialogue (Part 2)
"Let's Go. Drop Your Pants."
"Nah, we gotta take first steps first. We cutting his hair. Don't you think I have better things to do than talk to you about behaving yourself?"
"Yes, sir."
"You thought I was just playing with you [when you got your whippin on Monday]. You know, boy, you need a bald cut."
[Mike says,] "Yeah, he would like that."
"Yeah, right? Let's see how many friends you get with a haircut like this. OK, here's what's going on: it's time. Brush all that hair off first. 

[Boy brushes the hair off his neck and back.]

That's what's happening. We're 'bout to take turns. 

Let's go. Drop your pants."

[They leave the bathroom and head into the next room where Mike is waiting to witness this Spanking.]

Key takeaways:
  1. While Daddy shaves his boy, they will discuss how the boy's bottom will be beaten with this belt.
  2. Then, Daddy takes the time to explain that The Belt (which he has draped over my shoulders as he shaves your head) will be used across your behind when we are done in the bathroom shaving your head.
  3. Out of the blue, Daddy's friend enters the house; (obviously, this is prearranged and agreed to by the boy ahead of time). Daddy's buddy comes over to the bathroom and sees you having your head shaved in the bathroom. This could also precipitate dialogue between the adults in the room about the Spanking that's about to take place.
  4. Daddy informs his boy that this other Daddy is here to continue beating your bottom with the belt when "my arm" gets tired. The boy will also realize at this point, he will be watched while he is spanked for being naughty.
Step 3: Beat the Boy's Behind
I believe that this is where the disciplines hits the skids. There is far too much yelling and cursing from the Mentor. This should be a calm, sound Spanking, but this section of video turns into some sort of  out of control adult beating a child. This is appalling, avoidable, and could have been done much better to accentuate the effectiveness of all the preamble above.

Daddy/boy Dialogue (Part 3)
The boy will also realize at this point, he will be watched
while he is spanked for being naughty.
[On the video, we see an empty bathroom, but hear the Daddy/boy dialogue clearly. And the Spanking. We clearly hear loud swats off camera:]
"How many times did I tell you? Huh? How many times? Now why are you crying? This doesn't mean anything to you."
"Yes, it DOES!!!"
"No, this isn't doing nothing to you. Just Monday, you took your [behind] right back down to school, and you started acting up again."
"OK, OK."
"No, it's not OK. 'Cuz you going back to school tomorrow, and you act up tomorrow, and...remove your damned hand. You out of your mind?"
"OK, OK. It hurts. It DOES. That hurts!!!"

Key takeaways:
  1. Once the shaving is complete, Daddy provides clear instructions that his boy is to get up, brush the loose hair off, drop his pants, and head into the next room where Daddy's friend Mike will be waiting and watching.
  2. The Spanking commences immediately in the next room. 
  3. All discussion is over with.
  4. The adult boy will have his bottom beaten with The Prop (belt, switch, paddle) the boy has just seen throughout the entire preamble, which was also referred to during Daddy's "Investigation."
  5. During the boy's bottom beating, the adult boy is required to tell Daddy why the last time Daddy beat his bottom did not result in better and proper behavior.
I want to re-emphasize that this is not proper for children. 
But for adult boys!? Perfection.


Conclusions
The Mental Experience:
 The Very Essence of Cornertime Confidential
We live in a world full of great Corporal Punishment ideas, opportunities, and communities. The more we think holistically about the entire CP experience for both Daddy and adult boy, the better.

One can whack away at am adult boy's bottom, but the essential elements that build full-integrated, satisfying experiences for both are rarely giving and receiving physical pain for the sake of pain.

Without the mental experience front and center, the rest is a kinda of off-color physical abuse. I suppose the video of this "Mentor" is proof of that if you needed it. In a consensual arrangement, I suppose there doesn't really need to be the give and take for some. But for me, it's the very essence of Cornertime Confidential.

The lessons we can take away from this man's approach to discipline are eminently laudable in an adult M/m Spanking context. In a way, he just misunderstands what whoopins like this are truly for. These are for the adults in his life.  Come to think of it, I have an idea, maybe he and his buddy Mike should try this with each other. It'll be both legal and appropriate!
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Friday, October 17, 2014

Anthony Goicolea: a Truly Original adult boy

Pack Mentality: Anthony's Lord of the Flies
I cannot recall quite when it was that I saw the first image of the NY-based art photographer Anthony Goicolea. Born in Atlanta, Georgia, his work is Lord of the Flies-gruesome; fetish ASB (adult schoolboy) authentic; mixed with just a dash of the adult stuck idling in his Freudian childhood.

Wikipedia says, "Some of his work features photographs of 'pre- to barely pubescent boys' in elaborately staged tableau settings, commonly showing multiple boys wearing traditional private school uniforms either engaged in school-life or recreation after school—but with often transgressive and erotic twists in their activities.

Boys are sooooo Gross
"Of great interest in these compositions is the fact that Goicolea himself portrays all of the boys in his photographs through the astute use of costumes, wigs, makeup, and post-production editing using Adobe Photoshop; 'always looking uncannily like a boy on the edge of puberty.'Therefore, despite having numerous figures in them, Goicolea's photographs are actually very complex large-scale self-portraits, and are always done in a flawlessly realist manner."

Sleeping With
Anthony's Imaginary Self



His ability to produce images that are both unique and compelling by transmogrifying himself into complex, completely identifiable images from any boy's childhood compels. Goicolea's fictive dioramas seem to me like very real worlds where the depicted boy lives in an aggressive, antagonistic environment. This boy appears to have lived (at least mentally) in a world of other boys who tormented or tried to torment "the other." The most striking element of his work for me is how he appears to fully embody and understand the adult boy, fully realized, both recalling his own experience as a child, and making the viewer's experience "pervy" or even kind of "filthy."

If Daddy Sees you Doing That,
You are Gonna get in so Much Trouble.





The whole point of his work seems to be to showcase that when one boy holds down another and spits in the other boy's face: that is pervy and that is the life of the average white"'tween!"

"...I See France
I See Someone's Underpants!"
















Theinherent bad behavior of boys that we see in Lord of the Flies (see black and white image above), is not unique to some book from the 20th century. But as Hannah Arendt might point out, the hidden reality is that even at this tender age realized by Goicolea, we all have "evil" inside of us. It's the ability to express that evil through art that makes artists like Goicolea indispensable. The subtext for me is that when adults abrogate the social contract—that is to say, allow kids do these vile things—that's when it all devolves into the art you see here. 'tweens devolve into hoodlums, and boys like Anthony's little monsters get to hold the reins.

Thanks to Goicolea, we have a fully-realized artist who can express through wasn't it Sondheim who said in "Sunday in the Park With George"—"Design. Impact. Order." For me, I find his dystopian message whispering to me the horror of boys and their bad behavior, and I can just feel how much he wants to live in a world where the evil boys do is actually brought under control.

No one with a healthy psyche viewing his work would look at these images and think: that's right. No. No. His images are all wrong—brilliant, but wrong. And that's what conveys to the viewer that we all need to be better adults. (Or find a Daddy who can help us be better boys!)


Below is a lot more on Gociolea, from an exhibit at Kentucky's 21C Hotel (which, by the way, if you've ever been stuck in Louisville, you really must stay at this hotel!):


Born in 1971 in Atlanta, Georgia, Anthony Goicolea is a first-generation Cuban American artist now living and working in Brooklyn, New York. Employing a variety of media, Goicolea explores themes ranging from personal history and identity, to cultural tradition and heritage, to alienation and displacement. His diverse oeuvre encompasses digitally manipulated self-portraits, landscapes, and narrative tableaux executed in a variety of media, including black-and-white and color photography, sculpture and video installations, and multi-layered drawings on Mylar.
You Guys, Stop it! When Teacher Sees This, You'll all Have
Your Bottoms Beaten, you Know That, Right?!
#ASB: Schoolboys Gone Wrong

Best known for his powerful, and often unsettling, staged photographic and video works, Goicolea made his artistic debut in the late 1990s with a series of provocative multiple self-portrait images.

These early works featured groups of young boys on the threshold of adolescence, acting out childhood fantasies and bizarre rituals of revelry and social taboo in highly staged domestic or institutional settings or dense, fairy-tale forests. Revealing a playful self-consciousness, they often consisted of complex composites of the artist himself, in all manner of poses and guises.

Soon thereafter, Goicolea garnered international attention with his ambiguous yet strangely compelling landscapes, ranging from dream-like woodland environments to vast, unforgiving urban and industrial wastelands. 

In subsequent series, many of the images are devoid of human figures, although the landscape reflects an anonymous and increasingly tenuous human presence. In these works, primitive lean-tos and crudely constructed shanties coexist in an uneasy union with the technological vestiges of an industrialized society.

"The artist has created several series of digitally composited topographies, often populated by bands of masked and uniformed schoolboys." 

Suggesting a world on the brink of obsolescence, these chilling images further cement the pervasive undercurrent of human alienation—from one another as well as the natural environment—that can be traced throughout the artist’s work.
Gociolea Conveys Being a boy Through his art
in a way no one else can.

Goicolea’s family immigrated to the United States in 1961, fleeing Cuba soon after Castro came to power. In a recent series of works, the artist trained his unflinching eye on his own personal history in mixed-media works exploring his roots and family heritage. 

These poignant, sometimes cinematic, images and installations are characterized by a fervent search for ancestral and social connections to a mythical homeland, Cuba—at once revealing nostalgia for a past that the artist never actually experienced, as well as a pronounced sense of cultural dislocation and estrangement.


Why Boys Need Swim Coaches
Leave Them to Their Own Devices & Just Look What Happens.

Goicolea has exhibited widely in group and solo exhibitions at venues throughout the United States, Canada, Europe, and Asia. Goicolea’s work is held in many public collections, including those of the Whitney Museum of American Art, the Solomon R. Guggenheim Museum, and the Museum of Modern Art, New York; as well as the Yale University Art Collection, New Haven, Connecticut; the North Carolina Museum of Art, Raleigh; and Telfair Museums. The artist, who grew up in the metropolitan Atlanta area, holds a B.A. in art history and a B.F.A. in drawing and painting, both earned at the University of Georgia, Athens. He received an M.F.A. in sculpture, with a minor in photography, from Pratt Institute of Art, New York, in 1996.


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Monday, October 13, 2014

How to Paddle an adultboy Soundly

And now a Word from the Paddling World of England...

Not known as the paddling capitol of the world, England does provide some helpful advice today from the pen of Sir Hugh who runs the Bognor Regis Caning Company. He's obviously an aficionado of caning, and we have had the chance to more deeply explore in greater detail the best way to cane Adult Schoolboys during Adult Schoolboy Caning appreciation week back on the first week of April.

Now, I'd like to bring you his history of the paddle and its proper usage—because if nothing else, the English understand "proper." This post below comes from our friends in Bognor Regis, and while I don't normally take paddling advice from caners, this chap does know his stuff. I hope you find it illuminating on your search to become the best Spanking Daddy in the world.

If you like this blogpost, you can find out more reading these posts:


HISTORY
Longer and Wider Paddles Were Designed for
“Official” Punishment Spankings in Schools.
Spanking paddles evolved from the use of a flat-backed hairbrush used to save a punisher’s hand from ache when  Spanking their offspring in the “over the knee” position. The back of the brush, being either flat or slightly convex extends the length of the arm thus increasing the speed of the impact on the backside without the discomfort to the palm of the hand. The solid area of the wooden brush/paddle cover more area than a hand does and isn’t flexible so all the energy is passed to the impact area.
From this, and for modesty and impartiality, longer and wider paddles were designed for “official” Punishment Spankings in schools. As there should be no physical contact between child and teacher the “paddle” was ideal. It was long and flat and stung even through trousers. As the blade covers a fairly large area the pain from a “paddling” was imparted to the recipient’s backside over a greater area quickly.
A six whack paddling was and is very painful. Some people were paddled over their underpants (for males). This wasn’t official but was continued for serious offences, as was the cane in the UK.
Some Boys Were Paddled Over Their Underpants 
What actually happens when a flat blade paddle make hard contact with the buttocks is that the blood is rapidly pushed away from the nerve ends which also get mild damage. When the force of the impact is removed the blood tends to rush back from whence it came causing the blood to heat up through friction as it rushes through the capillaries and when it reaches the damaged nerve endings the pain starts to bite and a deep throbbing sting starts to evolve around the paddled region.
A second whack escalates the situation and eventually bruising will occur around the edges of the impact area and due to the friction from the impact and the rush of heated blood there is a distinct possibility that blisters may result over the damages area.
Realizing this result could be problematic, paddlers conceived that holes in the paddle will remove any cushioning effect trapped air might have and speed up the impact force. It was then discovered that apart from the air cushion being removed, the holes, when used on bare skin, accentuated the impact area by stretching the skin and compressing the flesh and displacing the blood faster. The heat generated by the impact emphasised the production of blisters where the holes met the skin.

USING A PADDLE
With the subject lying over the knees or in a similar position bring the paddle down vertically on the upturned backside as one would for a handspanking. 

Do not swing or swipe across the skin as this motion will defeat the object of pushing the blood away from the surface and can cause friction burns.
With a subject bending over a table, chair, or simply touching their toes or knees, the backside is stretched more and the paddle should be aimed central to the buttocks and as horizontal as possible.
Try not to angle the paddle as the force of an edge hitting first could induce extreme stress in the material and, if wood, may cause any weakness to develop into splits especially with wooden paddles with holes. 




Aim to Strike the bottom Flatly 

With any form of twisting, wood will split, and, although all possible care is taken in the choice of wood, it is inevitable that some damage will occur especially around the weakened area where the holes are bored through the paddle blade.

All punishment paddles should have smooth rounded edges so as not to cause the edges cutting the skin. All holes should have slightly relieved edges for the same reason although having said that they should not be as smooth as the outer edges because we obviously want to promote the formation of extra pain and blistering.
Always extend the arm when aiming and place the tip of the paddle on the middle of the far buttock cheek.

When applying the body moves forward and the paddle will hit the correct spot!

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Friday, October 10, 2014

Hotel Spankings & all That Racket!

Getting the Most out of Your Hotel Points:
SPG Properties are Great for Spankings
Hotel Spankings are a complex, sometimes very necessary Disciplinary Action that Daddys may find themselves taking to keep their boys behaved, happy, and ultimately in sync with a Domestic Discipline weekend away from home. When you are travelling, the last thing you may want to do is have to spank your boys at the hotel. There's the:
  • The noise
  • The crying
  • The tears
  • The Timeouts
  • Having to find a Spanking implement in a hotel room! 
It can all be a lotta work.

You probably just want to soak in the sites: The Empire State Building! the Tower of London! Arc d'Triumph! The Ganges! The Great Wall!

But as most of you Daddys out there may already know... 
"...sometimes a Daddy's gotta do, what a Daddy's gotta do."
But even tourists may want to take a break from their travels for a little Daddy/son time.

Thanks Rodney Gene for the Pic!
Your Little boy Underpants & Socks Rock!
Granted, the noise issue makes Daddys and their adult boys alike flinch(!) I've been thinking there must be a happy medium somewhere, somehow. I was in the W Hotel in Times Square and my neighbors were so busy plugging her hole(s), that I was truly grateful I'd thought to bring my earplugs. 

I mean, g'bless, really. But what about us!? What about Daddys and their adult boys? 

How can we use hotel rooms to deliver satisfying, valuable lessons?

My online buddy John has some thoughts on the matter. He wrote ages ago on his blog about him and his Sir's time living in Europe that the phone cord doubled as a handy-dandy Spanking Tool, since otherwise the small European room didn't afford anything much louder. It's a good story, in the blogpost, Badgroveboy's Sir said:

Benjamin Dover in Hotel Room Cornertime
London, England
So as the title suggests, this is Sir. I have come on the blog to write down the rules that will take place while we are in Europe. Since we are not at home, it’s easy for my boy to lose sight of his responsibilities and I am here to make sure that he stays on track.

Since sound is an issue, I have to use a phone chord when spanking boy, otherwise I would give him a good thrashing with a belt or swats with a paddle.

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A couple of years back, I was in a hotel in Chicago with Mister Ray, my Camp buddies Gray and Miles and my bottom was beaten with a cane. In order to contain the experience, Gray turned on the television, found Nickolodeon, and blasted a Spongebob Squarepants T.V. movie.

I suppose the rump roasting made complete sense in this environment, like as if I'd been watching Spongebob, was acting up, and Daddy took me across his knee to get me to behave. I know that later when we ran into Gray and Miles at the Hancock Tower, they couldn't stop talking about how the television helped set the little boy bottom beating mood.

My Well-Caned Bottom & The Corner
I Stood in, at the Westin, Reston, Va.


In July, Mister Ron from Chicago and I were in San Francisco after Camp Red Tails, and we were heading out to dinner. Before we dashed out the door, Mister Ron took his trusty paddle and applied it soundly to my very red, very sore, very nervous little tushie. As he applied a fierce Old Fashioned Hairbrush Spanking to my paddled bottom, he warned me that my behavior at dinner had better be good or there'd be more when we got back.

Well, I didn't behave well at dinner. This should be little surprise.

However, the time Mister Ron took to paddle my bottom was not only remembered, but appreciated well past dinner. 

Heck, I'm remembering it well enough to tell you about it now!










Oh! Urgh! And the punishing Cornertime with the curtains open and the busy street below in the dinner hour looking in as I was disciplined!  Man, that was the worst. But then, that's why hotel Spankings can be so effective.
South San Francisco, a Paddling in Front of the Entire City
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When I got home from my travels, I conducted a little crowdsourcing about how to contain the noise caused when Daddy spanks his adult boy at hotels or when you are away from home. Here are some of the better responses: 



Jay Allen
I have had a few sessions in Hotels, first it should be made clear that over acting high level noise is not acceptable, but I also always put the television on moderate volume.

And sometimes if it's a Good Sound Punishment Spanking, I put the chair in the bathroom. Yes, bathrooms do echo sound, but within the bathroom, only. So, if the TV is on and maybe for the most vigorous portion you can even run the shower, nicer hotels are pretty sound-protected for general to moderate noise!



Rodney Gene Simmering
…I do work at a hotel, and if a guest next door hears it and there is too much noise they could complain. And I have had guest complain to me about nice from other room. Not spanking noise yet. LOL And we have had to comp a guest room before when they complain.

However, I have been spanked in a hotel a few times, and always wondered if people could hear what was going on. I'm going back to see Doc Oct next month and that is the probability we are going to [administer a Spanking] at the Hotel.



Bob Dahl
Yep; I live in an apt. building, and I have had to learn to get over how the neighbors might feel about the noise. I've had the same neighbors for years, and no one has ever lodged a complaint, and they are all polite & friendly to me. I rarely spank or get spanked at home these days, and when I do, I still get self-conscious about the noise.

Kleeny
@JakeTeneby, I was giving someone a spanking in my apartment the other day, and I was worried about the noise too....


But as complicated as all that racket muffling can be, don't waste another vacation!


Plan ahead!

And think about how you can best interject effective Corporal—and not-so-Corporal Punishment using the hotel soap—into your next stay away from home!
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Monday, October 6, 2014

Know Your adult boy—a Worksheet for Disciplinary Actions

Betty's Helpful Spanking Guide
Thanks to my Christian Family Discipline friends, including ol' Betty Chase at David. C. Cook Publishing Co. in Elgin, Ill. (see her book to the left here), I've been able to adapt a worksheet for you Daddys to to help you dealwith your adult boys.

As I've mentioned in many posts, using Christian Family Discipline as a guide for how you discipline and, in particular, how you beat the bottoms of your adult boys—can be truly effective. Seems as if Christians like to have things written down—more or less codifying the administration of discipline in a normal, chaotic home.

My friend boyJonathan who bought the book for me from which this chart below comes was a little less charitable, "Ah, jake, you're too nice. These books are just excuses to Christian parents so they can justify beating their own children."

I'm not so sure. I think these are just flawed adults with screwed up ideas on parenting. What they do probably doesn't work for all kids. But as an adult boy who was spanked when necessary, I think my Christian parent didn't do so as an excuse. They did it because it worked in our home.
Obey: "Something That Brought The Rod
Last Week Should Bring The Rod This Week."

"...it is vital for [Daddy] to develop consistency in the discipline of Spanking...agree upon what issues [you] will spank your [boys for...and remember], 'Something that was wrong yesterday is wrong today. Something that brought The Rod last week should bring The Rod this week. Consistency is perhaps the most important ingredient in proper discipline.'" 
Roy Lessin, author, Spanking, A Loving Discipline (c. 2002)
Having said that, I suppose if you were a parent who was finally ready to forego the current conventional wisdom that reasoning with a 7-year-old works—and you were sure that next time trouble starts, a Spanking will be administered—you might want a book with some imprimatur, say the bible, or something equally inviolable, to back you up. All that to say, yes, I'm glad I'm not a parent in today's world.

Since we are all adult boys and Daddys here, I've adapted the lesson's Betty and Roy have provided in their Spanking pamphlets, and today I'm thrilled to deliver to you below what I hope will be a simple, helpful worksheet on which to build a plan for you and your boys.

I've filled in some of the content, to give you a better sense of how to use this worksheet. Since you are both adults, I think that it's not such a bad idea to post this in the house, on the fridge, in the bedroom, on a bathroom mirror, etc.

Know Your adult boy
Positive behaviors, tendencies, characteristics, talents, or abilities
Specific plan to encourage and develop each positive behavior.
Likes to please Daddy
Use positive discipline to keep your boy on track, including rewards for not requiring Corporal Punishment and nonSpankingPunishments during the week.
—When problem behaviors arise, ask your boy to explain what discipline he thinks should be applied. 

Sociable—enjoys being with friends
—Allow friends to stay overnight
—Welcome his friends, and let them know they are entering a Domestic Discipline household, so they know that their behavior is expected to be good when playing with your boy(s).


Negative behaviors, tendencies, or characteristics
Specific plan for discouraging growth of your boy’s negative tendencies
Takes too long to get out of bed.
—Wake him up earlier.
—Have his clothes set out the night before.
—Require he wear what is laid out, so the morning does not become an exercise in foot-dragging.
—Leave The Hairbrush out to both make it easy for him to brush his hair, but also to remind him that failing to work with this program can result in an Old Fashioned Hairbrush Spanking.

Doesn’t pull his weight around the house
—Develop a chores list complete with timeline
—Employ active disciplinary techniques, for example, if your boy leaves dirty underpants out, make him wear them for the day.And then require he come immediately home from work to do laundry instead of going out.
—Alternatively, have a calendar on the ‘fridge that specifies when and what is to be done.
—Write down a set of “House Rules” and the consequences for breaking each of them.
—Leave a Spanking Stick out in the open as a behinder reminder for your boy to pull his weight.




Take These Four Simple Steps to a Better Domestic Discipline Life Together:

Step 1. Begin with this worksheet blank, and then fill in this chart above with what you and your boy need to work on. Keep an eye on how to flesh out your specific plan for encouraging the development of positive behaviors in your boy. Also, remember the many positive disciplinary tools you have for countering the negative behaviors.

Step 2.  Begin to fill in the right-hand column on the “Know Your adult boy” worksheet, and refine your plan as you go.
Creating a Good adult boyscout in Your DD Life
Sometimes Requires a Disciplinary Action Plan

Step 3. Put your cooperative plan into effect. As you apply the consequences, you will be training your boy according to his own particular positive and negative behavior traits.

Step 4. Once you have this plan in effect with your boy, you might consider adding a column which you keep dated, that lists how you administered consequences or gave encouragement. If you find the ways you gave encouragement was not significant enough, adjust your approach. If you find the ways you discouraged the growth of negative tendencies were ineffective, adjust your approach there too.


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